We often complain that it is because we have been separated from those we love that we need to be healed. The truth however is that oftentimes we don’t even know we’re already wounded even before we got torn away from those we loved. God has allowed such a separation to take place in order that He might heal us from those wounds.
Not all separation is permanent. There are relationships that are restored in time, when the people involved have already grown and healed.
Deep within us, we may really feel angry. Angry for tasting the bitterness we feel we don’t really deserve. “It’s unfair! I have loved much, but pain is all I get in return. “Why is it that the people who get hurt the most are the people who sincerely loved the most?”
We hurt so much because we have lost a part of ourselves. If we have loved much, we must have given much also, and when everything’s over, we feel as though we have lost everything.
To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person’s opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.
Love doesn’t just go away without a sign or a reason. Things have happened along the way that caused it to grieve and to depart. Like all gifts, love has to be taken care of. It has to cherished and protected by those to whom it is given, and not just by one partner but by both.
No matter how broken and betrayed you may feel right now, know that love is never wasted. To be able to love another person is to be blessed with an opportunity to know the meaning of life, the real value of our existence. It’s not the one who has loved the wrong person who has truly lost something. It’s to be given authentic love and not receive it that is the greatest misfortune.
Let go of what you can no longer keep. Protect what’s still worth keeping. Believe in love most of all.
(Quotes taken from the Book MEND MY BROKEN HEART)